Tuesday, November 17, 2009

Happy Anniversary Bunny

It’s my wedding anniversary today. Peter and I have always celebrated two anniversaries, the one where we got together 19 years ago, and when we got married 13 years ago.

The last 19 years have gone by in the blink of an eye. So so quickly. In some ways I feel like not much has been packed in, and then I glance at my three boys and know that’s not so. Thirteen years ago, we married and our vows begun with ‘Today I marry my friend’. Were we to renew our vows, that same verse would be repeated. Through all our trials, frustrations and disappointments, there’s a strong and deep love and respect for one another, that seems to always float to the top. Sometimes it takes a lot longer to float to the top, and that’s an unsettling time - thankfully it always does.

While our relationship is not perfect, I know that I’m always trying to work toward that goal. Our strongest quality has always been that we are able to talk to one another, with honesty and without fear of reprisal. This doesn’t happen of course during the heat of an argument or in the midst of cross words, sadly.......but when things are quiet, there are no distractions and we take time out for us as a couple, we can always reconnect.

Today I downloaded ‘The Five Love Languages’, a book by Gary Chapman. It’s a book I’ve had a brief understanding of the concepts but have been meaning to read for the last ten years. The book is based on the premise that we all give and receive love different ways. Some need ‘Words of affirmation’, or ‘Acts of service’ or ‘Physical touch’, I can’t remember the other two, but these are the main ones I remember as they are strong players in our relationship. It also works on the idea that if your ‘Love tank’ is empty, there’s nothing left to give.......and I can so relate to this one. I’m looking forward to delving more deeply into these concepts and to applying them to my marriage.

In the voice of Dr Phil ‘Your love for each other is the greatest gift you can give to your children’. I believe that so strongly.

Happy Anniversary Bunny! Looking forward to a yummy roast pork dinner.

Love you. Forever and Always.


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